Relationships & the power of "POOF! Be Gone!" (ACHTUNG SERIES )

For some reason my blogs on relationships seem to garner the most attention, responses, emails and comments lately… I lamented about this, but have decided perhaps I’ll continue further discussion on this topic for the next little while… Personally, these are harder blogs to write, but I’ll roll with it.  (Ironically, I am participating in a Bachelor/Bachelorette auction for the Canadian Centre of Abuse and Awareness this Thursday, February 3, 2011…. If you’re in the area come out and support this cause.)

Monday's Music Lyrics - Irreplaceable

It’s disturbing to me how many people are willing to settle when it comes to relationships.  We have only this life, and yet some people will marry or date for the sake of being with someone before taking a moment to decide what it is they really need and want from a person.

I am old fashioned (in some ways) and believe a man should pursue a woman... Personally, I will not chase a guy, and find nothing as endearing as when a man is smitten by a woman…. But, that’s my bag…

I also believe that it’s human nature to desire a relationship.  But, my question is, at what cost?  I would rather be fabulously single than to have a settling relationship.  It took me some time to realize this, but the truth is, people need to recognize and KNOW their own worth, before demanding another person to value them.  And I’m not talking about arrogance, but rather self-appreciation and a deep rooted confidence.   If more people recognized their worth, less people would stand for someone not giving them what they need in a relationship.  In fact, you’re not going to settle for just any relationship.  You’re going to want the BEST because you know YOU ARE THE BEST!  As cliché as it is, people are like buses, there is always another one around the corner.  And the time you waste with the wrong person is time lost with being with the RIGHT person!

And if you’re single, NOW is the time to take a moment and UNDERSTAND how awesome you are.  Make that commitment that not just anybody will do.  Know what you want.  And don’t get caught up in the idea of what someone COULD be.  Take them at face value.  And ladies, if a man isn’t giving you the attention you deserve – such as calling you (for no reason), making plans to be with you, initiating interaction, making time for you even if he's busy (and texting DOES NOT count!!!!), LET HIM GO.  And for the men out there, if you are dating a woman who doesn’t recognize and appreciate you, you might have to LET HER GO… or as I like to say – Throw that fish back in the sea!  (Poof! Be Gone!)  Lastly, if you are with someone incredible, NEVER take them for granted.  Let them know how much you do appreciate them! (Obviously, communicating your issues are essential before POOFING someone.)

I like the song “Irreplaceable” because it demonstrates a woman taking a stand and realizing she can do better than what she is getting from her relationship (and I hope anyone in her situation would have the courage to do the same).  I played it to my sister and she thought it sounded like a break up song… I actually find it a song of strength and affirmation that if someone isn’t giving you what you deserve they are replaceable…. It’s that simple!

Life is meant to be abundant! We are all amazing (in our own ways), and everyone deserves someone who recognizes that. Don’t settle in your job, ambitions, and certainly don’t settle in relationships!

Never Settling,

Nicole

Irreplaceable by Beyonce

Songwriters: Lind, Espen; Smith, Shaffer; Knowles, Beyonce; Bjorklund, Amund; Eriksen, Mikkel S; Hermansen, Tor Erik;

To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left

Everything you own in the box to the left
In the closet that's my stuff, yes
If I bought it please don't touch

And keep talking that mess, that's fine
But could you walk and talk at the same time?
And it's my name that is on that tag
So remove your bags let me call you a cab

Standing in the front yard telling me
How I'm such a fool, talking about
How I'll never ever find a man like you
You got me twisted

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I could have another you in a minute
Matter fact he'll be here in a minute, baby

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I can have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable

So go ahead and get gone
And call up that chick and see if she's home
Oops, I bet ya thought that I didn't know
What did you think I was putting you out for?

Because you was untrue
Rolling her around in the car that I bought you
Baby you dropped them keys
Hurry up before your taxi leaves

Standing in the front yard telling me
How I am such a fool, talking about
How I'll never ever find a man like you
You got me twisted

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I can have another you in a minute
Matter fact he'll be here in a minute, baby

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I'll have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable

So since if I’m not your everything
How about I'll be nothing, nothing at all to you
Baby I won't shed a tear for you, I won't lose a wink of sleep
'Cause the truth of the matter is replacing you is so easy

To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
Everything you own in the box to the left
To the left, to the left
Don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I can have another you in a minute
Matter fact he'll be here in a minute, baby

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I can have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking, baby

You must not know 'bout me
You must not know 'bout me
I can have another you in a minute
Matter fact he'll be here in a minute

You could pack all your things, we're finished
(You must not know 'bout me)
'Cause you made your bed, now lay in it
(You must not know 'bout me)
I can have another you by tomorrow
Don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable