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The problem with beauty is that sometimes people may only admire from afar, presuming that that person is WAY out of their league. When it comes to dating, is there an unspoken hierarchical nature, whereby someone may be out of your league?
I don’t think so, but certainly, I’ve been guilty of feeling this way in the past. When you think about it, it is kind of silly and sad. And thankfully, I’ve learned how to confront this phenomenon.
At the end of the day, I’m not sure anyone is out of anyone’s league. I believe the barriers in place are only those created in the mind. Here are 5 steps to date that certain someone who “is out of your league.”
STEP 1. Humanize Them – As much as you might revere them and can easily list their strengths, you must remember at the end of the day they are a person. And they have flaws/weaknesses too. It’s not a good idea to put anyone on a pedestal, for they certainly will disappoint you at some point. Therefore, with your “chosen one,” draw to mind their humanistic qualities (or weaknesses). Yes, they may be great… maybe even perfect in your eyes, but you need to be cognizant of the qualities which make them human.
STEP 4. Ask Them Out
Now that you’ve come to realize how amazing you are and deserving of someone also amazing, buck up and ask that special person out. The worst thing that could happen is he or she will say no. You may feel let down, but it’s not going to kill you. And the best thing he or she can say is yes! And that’s a risk I believe worth gambling for.