Wednesday's Relationship Corner
Continuing from last week’s blog (Classic Signs of a Bad Guy), today, I explore the good guy versus bad guy debate. Again, I must impart on you I’m not a relationship expert... I'm just a girl with a blog.
For an insecure woman, the appeal of a bad boy may be the desire to tame him and make him smitten for her. Comparatively, I speculate that these girls will also overlook the good guys, simply because the good guys have made the fault of genuinely liking them. (And if you're a good guy you really don't want to date this kind of girl anyways!)
For any girl who finds themselves lamenting over a bad guy what you’re probably really sad about are the fantasies you’ve created about this guy. It’s very easy to see the potential in someone, and lose sight of who they really are. Next time you reflect on Le Jerk, really take a closer look and I’m sure you’ll see his true colours. You can’t choose to see only the possibilities and disregard the glaring reality. When you let go of the fantasies, you open yourself up to the kind of relationship you deserve.
A woman who is content with herself, her life and KNOWS what she wants won’t put up with a bad guy. In fact, it often takes a bad guy (or in some cases a few) for a woman to figure out what she wants and how she DESERVES to be treated. Essentially, the bad guys become our pathway to really valuing and appreciating the Good Guys. So, while women might date bad guys, most women don’t want to settle with a bad guy. Indeed, like the Tortoise, it is the good guys that truly wins in the end!!!
One final note… not all bad guys stay as so. Sometimes the right girl comes along and changes a guy’s dog-pounding ways. I’ve witnessed this. But, it doesn’t come about by the girl trying to make the guy a good guy, it comes from a guy realizing he better step up his ways if he wants any chance with this girl he really values. Change comes from one’s own volition not from someone trying to impose it on you.